Reclaim Your Lives

After all these years I am still not used to being stared at. What’s with most of the men, why do they have to stare? Agreed and accepted every time they see a new lady they have to check her out, it’s got something to do with their basic nature I believe. Just like they check out new gadgets, cars and the likes women fall in the same category so just check them out. But why doesn’t it end there, why does a man have to stare at a woman whom he happens to see every day, here I am talking about guys at the work place.

At my last job the process I worked in had about 700 people, mostly guys. And for some reason mostly all of them had made staring at girls their hobby. Worked there for 18 months, there wasn’t a single day when I didn’t freak out. I am sure most of the girls who worked at this place now have an attitude issue either they think they are too good to be true or they think they are freaks or circus clowns. I happen to move from one end of this thought spectrum to the other depending upon the positioning of my stars. There was this guy who would keeping staring even when his girlfriend was with him and the girl instead of slapping the guy would look daggers at the being stared at girls. If slapping doesn’t get the results girls do get in touch with me for some really good 3rd degree methods of torture.

Like it isn’t enough that single women have to deal with such men, they have to deal with some over zealous and concerned married women and obscure married men too. This married people have a major issue at hand which if not addressed soon can get out of control. They pester every person who is single to get married more if the happy single happens to be a woman. It’s the ‘why me?’ syndrome, they want everybody to suffer. Some how being married makes them think they are wiser, what’s the connection, don’t ask I don’t know, ain’t married yet.

All these well wishers advice me to get married as soon as possible, I wont get a nice guy once I am over the prime marriageable age. I don’t want to break the illusion so I don’t tell them nice guys do not exist, they never did. Met one such well wisher the other day, she wanted to know when I planned to get married, I said I don’t know, need a guy to get married don’t I, at least the last time I checked the criteria had not changed. She wouldn’t listen to me, told me one has to get married, I asked why, with the, I know something that u don’t know enigmatic look she only repeated that one has to get married.

I have always wondered about this, why so much pressure to get married and that to in a stipulated time frame, like if one gets married at the age of 50 for the first time it’s unacceptable. I think the reason is sex, since our society doesn’t acknowledge pre marital sex, its important to get married and that too at an early age. Does it ever cross their mind that there is more to marriage than that? That somebody might be seeking a companion and they haven’t found one yet, so lets leave them to their own devices and not make it our business to advice them. I mean if sex is all one wants then there are enough people who will oblige. Marriage to me is more than that. To all those wise enigmatic people who make it their business to advice the unenlightened singles I have only one thing to say, ‘Reclaim Your Lives Guys’, if you don’t have any bright ideas go buy a Tata Safari.